It’s the most wonderful time of the year, yet some people can’t help but get down in the dumps around the holidays. It’s ironic that although the season is supposed to be chock-full of cheer, it’s often just the opposite. According to the National Mental Health Association, there are many causes of the holiday blues. They can include fatigue, financial concerns, family drama and much more. Many people set themselves up for emotional failure by expecting something out of a Norman Rockwell painting. Experts suggest that you lower your expectations for the holidays. Try not to take on too much. Figure out what you can reasonably do without completely overtaxing yourself. If it feels like too much, it usually is. Recruit a support system. Give tasks to loved ones who are willing to lend a helping hand. Don’t try to be a martyr. The more you can take off your plate, the better. Always make some time for yourself. Squeeze in a nap. Sneak away for a pedicure.

Do something to show yourself a little TLC. Don’t dwell on the past. Remember that every year will be different, and you shouldn’t let other holidays dictate how you’re going to feel during this one. Focus on the present. Avoid drinking too much alcohol as alcohol is a depressant that can make you feel even worse. If you feel lonely during the holidays because you’re divorced or single, why not try doing something for others? Volunteer. Donate gifts to those who are less fortunate. Spend some time with an elderly neighbor or relative. Give up a few hours at the local soup kitchen. There are so many people who could use your help. And reaching out to others is a great way to lift your spirits. Also, be sure to exercise. Physical activity will raise those endorphins and get you feeling better. Even if It’s just a brisk walk, get moving at least five times a week for 30 minutes a day.