Roughly two-thirds of marriages do not survive after an admission of infidelity. If you've undergone a divorce after your spouse cheated, then you probably are feeling anger, sadness, resentment and a lot of other negative emotions. You likely need to regroup and get your footing in life again after such a traumatic breakup – easier said than done, right? But making a plan to move on is a promise to yourself that you will not get stuck in the past and will allow yourself to love, trust and eventually forgive – if not for your ex, then for your own peace of mind. First, assess your willingness to let go. Take off your wedding ring and let go, and if you can't, get to the bottom of your reticence. Don't prolong the inevitable. It's going to be painful – allow yourself to feel that pain, not push it aside.
You may be tempted to get into a relationship immediately, whether strictly physical or otherwise, but it's wiser to nurture yourself first. Spend some time alone and do the things you really enjoy doing without putting pressure on yourself to do those things with another person -- yet. If you feel too afraid to embark on a new relationship, ask yourself why – it's important to rebuild trust in others despite having that trust violated in your marriage. And remember to try to forgive your ex. Don't do it for him or her – do it for yourself, simply because holding on to all of those negative feelings holdsyou back, not your former spouse. Know that you have a choice to remain in the past or move forward with optimism and hope.