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Slippery When Wet: Water Play for Partners

Water is sensual. It feels good against your skin, you're half or fully naked, and there's no need for lubrication. What more could you ask for?

If you have a difficult time thinking of something new, don't worry. We have some of the best sex moves to make in water. And since the summer is approaching, you will most likely be in the water more often, which means you might be curious about these new ways to play with your partner.{relatedarticles}

Start with Foreplay

When you start having water fun, just tease each other. This is water foreplay. Grab one another, rub up against each other, and slide in between one another without getting too far into it. You can also sit on your man, grab him, and even go underwater for some fun without feeling as though you are completely exposed.

You can also play a bit of peek-a-boo, as you both show off what you got, but hide under water or behind the small piece of clothing you're wearing.

The more time you participate in water foreplay, the more intense your feelings will become, and the more ready you'll be to get it on.{relatedarticles}

Get Ready for Positioning

As you both get excited from the foreplay, you can either keep your bathing suits on or take turns taking each other's off. That's the great thing about bathing suits, it doesn't take much to get them out of the way, and it doesn't take long to get them off.

Be careful if you are taking the bathing suits off. Make sure you place them somewhere you can get to them afterwards. You don't want to be caught having to walk back to your room naked, if they get washed away somehow.

Once you are to this point, you're ready to get down to business. Try out some of these moves for sex fun in water.

If you are in a hot tub, or another place where your man can sit down, climb on top of him to sit. With the buoyancy of the water, you can easily do squats on him. Your hands can be on his nipples or wrapped up in his hair.

If you are in a shallow depth of water, see if he is able to lay down resting his forearms on the bottom. Face away from his face and ride him that way. Again, the buoyancy of the water makes doing the squats much easier.{relatedarticles}

If the water is shallow, lay on your back. Put one leg up, and have him enter in closely. One of his hands will hold your leg up, the other can be used on your clitoris.

If you are able to rest your head on the edge of the pool, or hot tub, have him bring each of your legs around his waist, so he can do you that way.

Grab onto a raft and have him come in from behind you. He can move your legs up or down to create a different sensation for both of you.

Have him sit on an inner tube and sit on him while he is on it. Lean back and he can thrust that way. You can also place your legs on his shoulders.

If you have a raft that's large enough, spoon each other and have him enter you. The slow, rocking motions the raft and you both make will surely make you both feel loved by one other.{relatedarticles}

Sit down on one of the steps that go into the pool. Have him lay into you with his feet on the bottom of the pool. Then he can use his waist to move back and forth.

Have him stand on the last rung of the ladder going into the pool. Come up in front of you and face away from him with your feet on the second to last rung. You'll be in front of him and he enters from behind.

You have to love the buoyancy of water. Just jump on him so he is holding you at his waist. He can hold you with his hands on your behind, and move you back and forth.

Water Fun in the Shower

The pool, hot tub, and other bodies of water aren't the only places you can have sex fun. You can also have it in the shower. Try these moves out.

Position yourself right underneath the showerhead. Have him tilt his back a little and you bend down just a little to make it easier for him to enter.{relatedarticles}

Have him sit in the bathtub with the shower pouring down on him. Straddle him from above and let the shower and your movement do the rest.

Have him sit on the edge of the bathtub. Back up to him so that you are almost sitting on him. Your thighs will burn after you guys are done, but it's worth it.

Don't forget that if you have a bathtub, rather than just a standalone shower, you can do many of the hot tub, pool, and other bodies of water moves in it. Space may make things difficult, but get creative, and make them work the best you can.

Start Having More Sex with More Fun

Sex can get boring if you have been with the same person for a while. Getting in the mood in water, and using it to try out some new water sex tricks can really bring the excitement back into your sex life.

With all of these ideas for water sex play, you have even more reasons to get out there and hit the pool, hot tub, lake, or just the shower. Just be careful while you are outside; getting caught in the act can be an embarrassing situation.

If it does happen though, at least you can hide under the water. Well, that is until you have to come up for air. Then you'll have to figure something out, but that's on you. Have fun!

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5 Things He Wants To See You In ... And Out Of

As women, we all know what makes us feel sexy and most of it involves a certain level of comfort. Unfortunately, what we like and what makes us feel sexy might not always mesh with what our men want to see us in and what they want to see us get out of either. While we might think that a nice black dress will do the trick to keep them foaming at the mouth, the men in our lives might beg to differ.

Even if something that you have worn for ages has seemed to do the trick in the past, it might be time for a change to keep things interesting. Here are the top 5 things that he likely wants to see you in, then out of (in no particular order).

1. Sexy Lingerie

It sounds cliché, but there is a reason why places like Victoria's Secret exist. Luckily, this is not your mother's lingerie. There are so many different options that you can choose from when picking out lingerie and it no longer has to be uncomfortable. You can opt for the simple yet sexy, or you can go for something with all of the kinky bells and whistles.


When it comes to taking off your sexy lingerie, you can do a strip tease or have him take it off for you one piece at a time. The bottom line: he wants to see you in something that offers enough of a tease that you are hiding something but not too much that you don't allow him to use his imagination. It all depends on what your man likes, though, so see if you can get it out of him without him knowing before you empty the racks of your nearest lingerie shop.

2. A Thong

As much as many women hate to wear thongs, men simply love them. They love the idea of not being able to see everything but being able to see enough to keep their interest and imagine what might be underneath. If you were uncomfortable the last time you tried on a thong, try one on again.

There have been some pretty cool advancements in this type of underwear, meaning that in some cases, you might not even feel like you are wearing anything. This can eliminate underwear lines and keep your man guessing what you are wearing under your clothes. When it comes to taking them off, he can use his hands or his teeth.


3. A Low-Cut Dress

Sure, there are leg men and butt men out there. But most men adore breasts, and they like to see at least some partial cleavage in anything that you wear. If you have any size to your breasts, then you can perk them up with a nice-fitting push-up bra and then wear a low-cut dress over it for a sexy look. If you are flat-chested or have more of an A cup, then you can go even lower with the cut of the dress.

Yes, it leaves less to the imagination, but it also provides a stunning and daring look that can leave your man wanting even more. With a low-cut dress, there is more than one way that you can get out of it, making it easy for him and for you when the time comes.

4. High Heels

This is more along the lines of those spiky high heels that you see in the movies, not something that you would necessarily wear to work. These high heels typically are black and almost always exude a sexy quality that cannot be found with any other type of shoe. Six-inch would be best but go higher if you can handle it. Practice walking around the house in your heels first so you don't stumble.

Whether you are fully dressed and are getting ready for a night on the town or if you are playing dress-up at home with your man, you should find a sexy pair of heels that you can slip on quickly when the time calls for it. When it comes to the height of your high heels, the higher the better. Even if you have trouble walking in them, don't worry. You likely won't be wearing them for very long anyway.

5. Makeup

The idea of this is a little less sexy, for sure, but the makeup that you wear on your face is just as important as what you wear on your body. It can make your man more turned on when he sees you wearing some daring eyeliner or some hot pink lipstick. You can go as crazy as you want here - if you have some time to yourselves and are in for an adventurous night, then you can pull out all the stops when it comes to your makeup.


Check what is in your arsenal for some ideas right off the bat and add to it if you find that your makeup is less sexy than you want it to be. Just like he will love to see you in it, your man will also love to see you out of your makeup.

Many men today love a more natural look - or even women who wear minimal makeup or makeup that goes unnoticed by the naked eye. He will see your beauty shine through both with your makeup and without it.

These are just 5 of the many, many things that he would love to see you in - and out of. If you use your imagination, you likely can come up with dozens more. You know your man more than most people do, so what you wear entirely depends on the types of things he likes.


If you know him well, then you know what he wants and how to get him in the mood with what you wear. Even if you don't, you still can experiment with some of the things on this list to see where you land. You never know, you might discover new things about yourself and your man that can add some serious spice to your sex life.

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4 Sizzling Movies to Turn up the Spice

Ask your man about his idea of a hot movie to get you in the mood, and it's likely you'll get a one-word answer: porn. The notion makes many of us ladies cringe our noses, but why is that? It probably has something to do with the way we're wired. When it comes to steamy flicks to get us in the mood, having an in-depth story line definitely helps, anything to give that emotional connection. Then again, if you're looking for a film that gets both of you in the mood, you don't want anything borderline sappy chick-flick.

It's a fine balance, finding a movie that will appeal to his basic instincts and your need to connect and stimulate all senses. Luckily, some of the major movie studios haven't let us down. There is a little bit of something for everyone here, with some tempting options spanning the 80s, 90s, and today. Here's our take on the top 4 hottest movies to get you going.

Wild Orchid

What it's About: When Emily accepts a job with an international law firm, it comes with one condition: She must be able to fly out the next day to Rio de Janeiro to help the firm's top executive, Claudia, close the sale of a hotel. A turn of events pulls Claudia away to Buenos Aires, and Emily is encouraged to take her boss' date, James Wheeler, for the night. Emily is instantly drawn to Wheeler's quiet and intriguing personality. After a slew of sexual encounters (including one with a masked stranger at Carnival and heated conversation with Claudia and a surfer in their hotel room) the sexual tension Emily feels for Wheeler comes to a breaking point.

Why it's Hot: The scent of wild orchids like the ones Wheeler gave Emily can all at once be both overwhelming but beautiful, much like the intoxicating cloud that seems to envelope the setting for this movie with lustful undertones. Add the steaminess of Rio with the intrigue of Carnival and the allure of Mickey Rourke (in 1989, pre-surgery of course) and it's no wonder that Emily was swept along on a wave of lust and desire that even she couldn't seem to control.

Tasty Tidbit: The original cut was edited to be suitable for an R-rating. Look for the uncut version, with a love scene between Claudia and Wheeler that is rumored to this day to be more than merely acting.

9 1/2 Weeks

What it's About: This mid-80s flick could be described as borderline "S&M in the City." A chance meeting at a Chinese grocery store in New York City is where their eyes first locked. As luck would have it, Elizabeth (played by Kim Basinger), a Soho art gallery assistant, and John, a commodities broker, meet again at a local flea market. This time, John presents her with a stole, and after taking her back to his houseboat, offers an experimental sexual relationship. She accepts, and in the weeks that follow, Elizabeth is swept up in the eroticism. As the sexual journey unfolds, the movie comes to an unexpected conclusion.

Why it's Hot: In everyday life, it seems there is a routine, a familiarity with relationships and intimacy. From the start, Elizabeth and John do not follow the traditional path of romance. After all, John blindfolds her during their first sexual encounter - a foreshadowing of what is to come. As the movie unfolds, John calls Elizabeth at random times, encourages her to experiment with her sexuality, pushing her to the brink of her limits. As the two fall deeper into their sexual obsession, Elizabeth spends her workdays in a haze, perhaps partly from lust and partly from lack of sleep.

Once again, it doesn't hurt that John is played by a 1980s Mickey Rourke, the decade's hottest commodity.

Tasty Tidbit: One scene to watch for is when John blindfolds Elizabeth and feeds her an array of foods, tantalizing the senses. Want to know what makes this scene perhaps the most talked about from the entire film? You'll have to watch and find out.

Basic Instinct

What it's About: This movie has some of the most alluring facets of a Hollywood film. It has a little rock "n roll, mixed with murder and of course - sex. The stage is set with the murder of rocker Johnny Boz. When San Francisco detective Nick Curran (Michael Douglas) is assigned to the case, he immediately suspects that crime novelist Catherine Trammel (Sharon Stone), also coincidentally Boz's girlfriend, viciously killed him. The murder weapon: an ice pick.

Interrogating her turns out to be harder than he could have imagined. Catherine is not only intense and seductive, she's also clever. What follows next is a mind game first fueled by lust and then lived out in wild sexual forays the likes Curran has never experienced.

Why it's Hot: Nick and Catherine's relationship begins as a cat-and-mouse game of sorts. The mind games build anticipation for the torrid sexual relationship to follow. Mixed in is a sense of danger. Catherine says she'll base her next novel's main character on a cop who falls in love with a woman who eventually kills him. This flick is truly a thriller with explicit sex scenes thrown in, for good measure.

Tasty tidbit: Director Paul Verhoeven must have done something right, because the thriller turned out to be one of the top grossing films of the 90s, raking in more than $350 million. The original version was originally rated NC-17, but after cutting nearly a minute of explicit sex scenes, it was dropped back down to its mainstream R-rating. If you want to see the film in its entirety, look for the director's cut.


What it's About: Meet Lee, a subdued young woman who has just gotten out of a mental hospital for her masochistic habits and returned home to Florida. She takes a job as a secretary at Edward Grey's law firm. Edward has a unique management style. Typos and other office errors call for a firm spanking, where Lee must place both hands on the desk while he hits her lightly until her skin is reddened. While this may sound borderline abusive (not to mention violating all sorts of sexual harassment laws), it's presented in a deliciously fun and light-hearted way as Lee begins to crave her boss' hard hand of discipline. As she begins to purposely mess up just to receive more spankings, sexual fantasies ensue.

Why it's Hot: This quirky play on the secretary-boss stereotype takes the notion of dominance and submission role playing to the extreme. While we tend to stray from an attitude of subservience in our everyday lives, this film has fun with the concept in a purely sexual way. Throughout most of the film, Edward and Lee don't actually have sex, but instead fantasies build the anticipation. It doesn't hurt that Edward is played by James Spader, already known for his TV role as a charming, quick-witted lawyer, and that Lee (Maggie Gyllenhaal) appears so sweet on the surface but is ready to do most anything - no matter how deranged - to get sexual release
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