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Serve Up Some Healthy Competition in Your Relationship

We've learned early on in life that it's better to win, and in order to win, we need to be competitive. Although this attitude works well in sports and games, it can rear its ugly head in a romantic relationship. Too much competition can cause both partners to constantly try to outdo each other, which can cause added stress, jealousy and conflict.

However, just the right amount of competition can add spark to an otherwise boring relationship. Plus, it can make both partners motivated to improve their job or household situations. Here are some tips to create healthy competition in your relationship.

Healthy competition can make boring household chores much more fun. For example, you can divvy up jobs between you and your partner and make a game out it. He does the laundry and you clean the kitchen, and see who finishes first. You can race to get your jobs done first, and have a cleaner house in the process.


Healthy competition can also help your relationships in terms of finances. You can play a game to see who can save the most money in one week. If you're shopping for a new appliance, electronic device or even a new car, you can both compete to see who can find the cheapest price.

If you don't have any new purchases planned, you can use your competitive nature to raise money for someone or something else, such as a charity. Agree on a shared cause and see who can earn the most money. You'll feel good knowing that you used your competitive nature to do good for others.

If you have young children who always like to delay bedtime, you and your partner can take turns putting them to bed. Compete with each other to see who can get the kids to sleep quicker. Both of you will end up winning this one because the result will be more time to spend together.

Ready for some healthy competition? We're talking about working out. If you have a treadmill or elliptical at home, put your stamina to the test. If you prefer to do other types of exercise or don't have any gym equipment at your home, you can track how much time you both spend at the gym. Even if you don't win, your body will thank you for your increased effort.

If your guy enjoys playing video games, why not put your skills to the test? Study shows that 80% of women would play against their partner, with winning as the main goal, if given the chance. So join in and have him teach you the ropes.


Sound boring? The Nintendo Wii and Xbox Kinect have many games that allow you to be part of the action, so you can jump, dance or pretend to fight, meaning you get to compete and sweat a little as well. Another advantage? Competing and playing games with your partner results in better sex because of increased adrenaline and heart rate. So get your game on tonight!

If playing video games or working out is more effort than you're prepared to extende, watch a sports game with your man and root for the rival team. Although it's passive because there's not much you can do to control the outcome, your man will no doubt appreciate the new-found interest you have in sports.

Another fun way to compete with each other is to turn on the TV and play along with your favorite game shows. If trivia is your thing, turn on Jeopardy! and keep score to see who can answer the most questions. If puzzles are more your cup of tea, turn on Wheel of Fortune and see who is quicker at solving the phrases. Who knows, you may be surprised at how much your partner knows, and for some, being smart is incredibly sexy.

Even just sitting on the couch and having a discussion about controversial subjects such as religion, politics, pop culture or other hot topics can help put a spark in your relationship. You don't need to focus on winning or being right, just have a passionate but friendly discussion about what your stance is on a certain subject.

Having a logical discussion requires critical thinking skills, so you can exercise you mind muscles. You'll get to hear some interesting points from your partner's perspective, and who knows, you might be able to get them to change their mind about a particular topic.


Accomplishments of the other partner can bring out your own competitive spirit. So don't be surprised if your partner did something out of the ordinary (such as bungee jumping, skydiving and rock climbing) and you want to try it to.

Partners often fuel ambition and drive in each other. If your partner has been partaking in all the extreme stunts and accomplishments, stop standing by and join in on the fun. You may find a new hobby or interest.


What to Avoid


Avoid competing with each other in terms of careers. Although we all want to be the best we can be at our job, trying to outdo each other will only cause tension. Your partner may become resentful if you are always the one receiving promotions and bonuses while he is struggling at his job.

Plus, career competition will cause one of you to have to make sacrifices eventually, which can be deadly for a relationship.

You also want to avoid turning everything into a competition. You should be able to relax and just enjoy yourself without having to turn everything into a game. A little competition is healthy and even necessary, but it can ruin a relationship if it becomes the main focus.


A successful relationship requires a healthy dose of competition in order to keep it from becoming stale and boring. The trick is to prevent competition from being a constant force in your relationship. It's important to be equals and to be able to make compromises and sacrifices for the benefit of the relationship.

Competition should be fun and without conflict. Try one of these tips for healthy competition and watch your relationship blossom.

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8 Hot Ways to Turn Him On

At the beginning of a relationship, everything is hot. You're exploring each other's bodies, wants and needs for the first time, and it's exciting. He wants you all the time, in every position possible and in every location of the house (maybe even out in public!) Let's just say you're not complaining about it.

Too bad nothing lasts forever - not even those steamy sexcapades.{relatedarticles}

Once the newness wears off, your sex life just isn't the same. Your man is either out with the boys or glued to the television. It often feels like he doesn't have the time of day - or night -- for you or your needs.

But all is not lost. There are ways to turn up the heat when he's turned into a cold fish. The trick is to make him want you more than that beer with his bros. When you're lacking inspiration, look to these eight effective ways to get him going.


Wake Him Up with Sexiness


Guys are notorious for waking ready and raring to go. Work this to your advantage. Set your alarm a few minutes earlier than your man's, slip out of your nightie and wake him up with a little sexiness.

Crawl under the covers and snuggle up to him so he feels your lack of clothing. Kiss him gently, and whisper sexy ideas in his ear. You'll have him fully awake and alert in no time! He'll love your spontaneity, and you'll help him kick his day off to a great start!{relatedarticles}


Sneak in the Shower with Him


While he's sudsing up in the morning, quietly sneak in the bathroom and slip off your clothes. Pull the curtain back slightly, and sneak in while he's turned the other direction. Wrap your arms around him from behind and start kissing his neck.

You'll startle, excite and turn him on all at the same time. And -- big bonus -- the shower makes for easy cleanup after you're done!


Dance for Him


If you've got moves, show them off! Turn undressing into a slow and sexy striptease. One button at a time, start to remove your clothing piece by piece and give him just a little peek of what's to come. Turn on some smooth jazz or R&B to really amp up the mood.

He'll be on edge waiting for that last piece of clothing to disappear but it's doubtful he'll be able to wait that long. He'll be ripe for the picking in just minutes!

Giddy Up!


Every man loves a cowgirl, right? Forget the standard missionary position; it's time for you to get on top. Saddle up and ride your guy like a pony. Yell "yee haw" and pretend your lassoing cow-poke if you have to; just do whatever you need to do to get in the moment.{relatedarticles}

In addition to not having to do all the work, your man will love your take-charge attitude, and you'll both find pleasure in the exciting position!


Get Bossy


Sometimes, guys get tired of being in charge. Making all the moves can get exhausting and tiresome; that's when it's your turn to take on the boss role.

Take charge of the intimate times with your man. Tell him what you want him to do to you, where you want him to do it, and how hard. Be blunt and direct. You'll command respect and look hot doing it. Your man won't be anything but turned on by your new boss-lady persona!


Make Him Beg


We all know: guys want sex. So why give them what they want so easily?

Play hard to get. Make your man tell you what he wants you to do, and make him beg for it. Then make sure he tells you what you'll get in return. He needs to make you a deal you can't refuse and get down on his knees to do it!{relatedarticles}

Don't just give it all up for a simple "please." It's a win-win for both of you, and your man will be super turned on by your take-charge attitude.



Talk Dirty


Anyone can whisper "I love you" in someone's ear during sex. If you really want to turn your man on, though, you need to push the envelope a little more.

Sexily tell your partner your deepest fantasies: what you want him to do, and where you want it done. Make demands, give him direction and use those naughty words you were taught not to use as a kid. They'll shock him, turn him on and make him want you all at once.

Don't be afraid to be blunt or crude. In the heat of the moment, your man will welcome the sexy surprise.{relatedarticles}

Be a Tease


There's nothing a guy wants more than what he can't have. It's like the little kid in the playroom; he has to have the same toy that someone else is already playing with. You just have to learn to translate this to the bedroom.


So put on your sexiest dress, curl your hair and cuddle up real close to him on the couch. As soon as he clues into your strong signals, let the teasing begin. Be coy, don't give up kisses too easily and make him work for it! You could have any guy you want, right? He needs to show you why he's the one you should be with tonight!{relatedarticles}

This will drive him crazy. Just a few minutes in, he'll want you so bad he can't stand it. Prepare for major ravaging! If you've hit a standstill in your love life, try some of these tips out to reignite the spark. They won't just keep him in your life; they'll keep you satisfied, too!


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How To Get Your Spouse To Love You Again

Amuro Wesley

If your spouse is no longer in love with you as when you are dating, do not panic. However bad the situation may be, there is still a way for you to rekindle your relationship and get your spouse to love you again.

The first step is understanding. It is very easy for you to connect losing the feelings of being in love with actually loving each other when it is no longer the case. After their dating days have ended, the couples no longer feel the same excitement and sexual attachment as before. {relatedarticles}

Unlike dating, there are more commitments and responsibilities in marriage. Unlike those you face in school and work, these will be what we need to face for the next 10, 20 or even 30 years down the road and even more so when you have children.

Love is more than just being fond of that person and expressing your feelings for him or her. It is all about caring, sharing and even sacrificing everything you have if the situation requires be it from your spouse, children or both. That includes the things you love and freedom you cherish during your single days.

Every single thing you do be it work, spending money and even hobbies, you need to take their feelings into consideration. Such as telling and discussing with them even though there is a possibility of them not agreeing with you all the time.

It is never easy but this is what love is really all about whether you agree with what I just mentioned or not. If you cannot forsake certain things like playing video games, watching movies and shopping, then marriage and even parenthood is not for you.{relatedarticles}

Even when you have a steady stream of regular and passive income, you still need to set aside some time for your spouse and children. Not once or twice a week but every single day.

Every relationship has 4 stages as in falling in love, honeymoon bliss, disagreements and then being stronger or weaker in marriages.

Just because we find fault with each other, it is very easy for positive feelings to fade. It takes proper undersanding or even dire circumstances - when we are forced to work together - to build our relationship all over again.

Love is a commitment and responsibility. You cannot just express verbally but through actions and sacrifices I already mentioned. Mature couples love each other as a whole and not by looks and circumstances alone.

The next step is to spend quality time talking and listening to your spouse. If you both do not talk, it is very hard to cultivate feelings for each other and for your relationship to grow further.{relatedarticles}

Finally, give in to your spouse without expecting anything in return. This will make you a more mature person in the eyes of your spouse.

Understanding, spending time and accommodating are small things that you should do everyday to build trust, intimacy and love with each other.

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