Whether it’s going to the same restaurant every week, doing laundry every Wednesday, or hitting the sack at exactly 11 p.m. every night, routines can get boring. Similarly, having sex with the same person – and only that person – for a long period of time can get boring, too.

But if you still want to be in a relationship with them, what do you do? You can’t cheat, as that will destroy the trust and honesty in your relationship. So what other options are there? When that feeling of sexual routine begins to set in, many forward-thinking couples nowadays consider swinging as a solution.

Swinging began in the 1960s during the hippie era of sexual revolution. It involves bringing other sexual partners into the bedroom; often this is done as a couple with another couple or a partner, individually while the other partner watches, or just individually and one-on-one.

All activities are done with the permission of the significant other, though, so there are no feelings of betrayal or hurt.

Swinging is usually not just a one-time thing. Most couples who consider themselves swingers treat it as a lifestyle, regularly attending swingers’ parties, meeting other swingers, and going to swingers’ events. The most popular place for swingers to go is swingers’ clubs.

What is a swingers’ club?

A swingers’ club is just what it sounds like: a nightclub for swingers. Now, not only swinging couples are allowed into swingers’ clubs. These clubs typically allow couples, single women and single men, though there is usually a limit on the number of single men allowed in the club at one time.

Whether part of a couple or not, most people who come to a swingers’ club are interested in exploring new sexual partners or sexual fantasies. Swingers’ clubs serve as a place for these people to meet others with these same interests. Many clubs even have backrooms or VIP areas in which visitors can partake in sexual activities with other patrons.

Many swingers’ clubs have a bar and serve alcohol to help keep the conversation flowing and visitors’ inhibitions low, even featuring:

• a DJ;
• a dance floor; and
• sometimes even stages or dance cages for entertainment.

What might I see at a swingers’ club?

A swingers’ club is not the place to go if you are conservative or modest. Though not all clubs offer a VIP or activity room, it is very likely you will see some nudity and possibly even illicit sexual activities.

At the very least, you will see many other couples and singles, dressed to impress and meet potential sexual partners. There is also likely to be a good number of intoxicated people and dancing. Depending on the location of the swingers’ club and the time of night, you could really see any age, race or size at a swingers’ club. From 21 to 80, members of the swinging lifestyle span all generations.

Be prepared to be approached or propositioned. Since the premise of a swingers’ club is to connect people interested in exploring other sexual partners, most patrons will be very blunt and upfront about what they are looking for. They won’t be shy about complimenting you, propositioning you, staring at you, or asking you sexually illicit questions.

How do I get in?

Typically, swingers’ clubs charge a high admission price at the door. This is to keep out anyone who is not truly serious about the swinging lifestyle. It also goes toward keeping the club clean and safe for all patrons.

When you get to a swingers’ club, you will have to check in at a front desk area. You may be asked to sign a non-disclosure agreement, stating that you will not share any details of what you see in the club during your visit. You may even need to turn in your cell phone; this helps guarantee privacy of the patrons, ensuring that no pictures of activities at the club are taken or transmitted.

If you want to visit a VIP or activity room, there may be additional charges, as well as precautions (such as wearing a condom), to which you will be required to submit. Each swingers’ club is different, however, so these requirements will vary.

What else should I know?

Many swingers’ clubs have a BYOB (bring your own beverage) policy. This is either because they don’t have an alcohol license with which to sell alcohol to patrons, or they discourage the use of alcohol, because it impairs peoples’ judgment and makes them less likely to act safely and use protection.

If you plan to drink at a swingers’ club, be sure to check the club’s policy before going. You may need to bring your own beverages.

Most swingers’ clubs have an abundance of condoms available for patrons. In order to ensure your health and safety, though, bring your own condoms if you plan to participate in any sexual activities during your visit.

For couples in a committed relationship who are interested in exploring other sexual activities and partners, swingers’ clubs may be an option. Before visiting a swingers’ club, however, ensure both you and your partner are in agreement as to what’s allowed and what is off limits.

This will ensure neither of you is hurt in the event one of you participates in sexual activities with another patron while at a swingers’ club or event.

Swingers’ clubs can also be good options for single people who are not looking for a monogamous relationship and are interested in experiencing a free sexual lifestyle. As mentioned previously, though, many swingers’ clubs will limit the number of singles allowed in on a nightly basis.

Remember, swingers’ clubs typically do not advertise or make themselves very well known. It may take some research through online swinging groups to find a swingers’ club near you.

Also, it is important to note that the legalities of swingers’ clubs and their activities vary from state to state. Before you make plans to attend a swingers’ club, make sure to investigate your state’s laws first. Otherwise, your first foray into swinging could very well be your last.