It seems like a dumb question – are you on a date with the person you're interested in or is it something else? But as the rules of courtship degrade, so do the parameters of what constitutes a date, so it's important to know beforehand what you should expect and what's expected of you. Here is what a date isn't: He calls up asking to meet somewhere, then when you arrive, he's hanging out with his buddies. A last-minute call asking if you're doing anything that night? Potentially, it could be a date, but it sounds more like a "hangout" or booty call – or perhaps his original plans fell through! Being invited to his house without the promise of a night of dinner and perhaps a movie in doesn't mean it's a date.