This is an issue best left to the courts to decide - this way, trying to work it out doesn't result in arguments. And finally, couples in a second marriage may feel it's "easy" to get out of the relationship when things get tough - after all, they've already been divorced and know what to expect. On the other hand, couples who have already been through it are more adept at trying to make it work and are less likely to give up at the first fight. Divorcees who spend time after the split being single have time to understand their needs in a relationship and tend to know what they want the second time around. Relationship experts recommend self-introspection during this time to understand your role in the divorce, not just your ex-spouse's. If you're aware of the mistakes you made, then you're less likely to repeat them.