Boys will be boys.
Unfortunately, that can add up to one big headache for many women. Even the best guys have their flaws and habits that drive us up the wall; however, most man-mistakes aren't made purely to piss you off. We decode some of guys most mystifying and irritating behaviors.
Saying "I don't care" or "Whatever you think" every time you ask him for an opinion or decision.
Does your man go mute when you ask him how you look or get the deer in the headlights stare every time you talk about marriage? Don't write him off as uninterested or insensitive just yet. When guys aren't sure what you want they're afraid to say the wrong thing and would rather clam up than start a fight. The more comfortable you make him with sharing his thoughts and feelings, the more he will.
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It's also important to communicate clearly to him your needs and wants so that he can understand your feelings. By relating to where you are coming from, he will be better able to engage in a dialogue. If you have been dating for several months and he still doesn't speak up when you prompt him, you need to have a discussion about what's going on.
Not saying "I'm sorry."
After a big blowout when you can cut the tension with a knife, you might be thinking "this could all be over if he would just apologize" - but he doesn't budge. Even in the most PC times, many men have a hard time letting a woman get the last word. Most guys grew up in households seeing their fathers, grandfathers, and other men never apologize to the women in their lives. You can either suck it up and learn to accept his lack of progress or calmly explain to him that you are both equals in this relationship and that saying sorry doesn't emasculate him in any way.
He always wants sex at the worst times.
Men typically think of sex as a cure-all for any situation even an emotional one. They assume you will feel the same way. Just got laid off? Sex will take your mind of that. Having a fight with your best friend? Let's have sex to blow off that steam. It may seem like he's acting selfish, but he is only trying to help you the way he knows how. You can let him down gently and promise him a night of passion once your mood has passed or you can give it a chance to see if it actually works.
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He acts distant or mean to you when his friends are around.
When you spend time alone together your man may seem like the sweetest in the world, but when it comes to hanging with his crew he might act like he barely knows you. This typically goes back to the male-ego problem. Having his friends see him stroking your hair, holding your purse while you go to the bathroom, or blowing you a kiss from across the bar can totally blow his manly street cred. Either play it cool or skip the group hangouts altogether.
He remembers the score of a basketball game three years ago but can't remember anything you talked about yesterday.
A man's relationship with sports probably started long before he met you. Guys have been watching and talking about sports for a long time whereas being in a relationship may be relatively new to them. In addition to a long-term relationship with sports, many men mark certain times in their lives as they coincide with sports events like the Super Bowl or World Series.
He always gets defensive when you say something negative about his mother.
As the first woman in their lives, moms will always hold a special place in a man's heart. Even if she's acting terribly, it will be hard for him to hear you talk badly about the woman who raised him. Your best bet is to grin and bare it and if you must broach the "mom" subject do so very, very carefully and gracefully.
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He acts like he doesn't like your friends.
Your man might come off cold or uninterested when meeting your gal pals but that's because he may not be able to keep them all straight. Guys tend to have a long-standing solid group of a few friends, whereas women probably have lots of separate social groups like college friends, co-workers, family friends, etc. He may not understand your level of commitment to each group so he isn't sure how friendly or invested he should get.
When you ignore him, he calls all the time but when you act interested he suddenly wants nothing to do with you.
This can be one of the most frustrating issues a woman can experience when dealing with a man and it can make you feel downright crazy, but there is a reason why. When you are not paying attention to a guy by doing your own thing and living your life you come off as confident but the minute you offer a man your attention his brain switches to a mode that makes him feel trapped.
This can be blamed on biology as men have innate need to show or signal to others that he is still available to procreate at a moment's notice. Some guys are better at controlling this than others and if you can't seem to get him to settle down after a few tries - move on. {relatedarticles}
So the next time you're grumbling and cursing him under your breath asking "WHY does he do that?!" you can turn to this guide to figure it out. Remember that just like you aren't perfect - neither is he. Rather than ignoring it, hoping he will change on his own, the best to way to tackle these issues is to keep an open mind and line of communication.
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Seven seems to be a prominent number. There are the 7 days of the week, the 7 wonders of the world and of course the 7 deadly sins. However, did you know that there are also the 7 sinful kissing techniques based upon the 7 deadly sins? In ancient times, a sin was considered a serious moral offense and the seven deadly sins were seen as the gravest ones.
First enumerated by Pope Gregory (the Great) and elaborated in the 13th century by Thomas Aquinas, the 7 deadly sins were identified as (1) vainglory, or pride, (2) lust, or inordinate or illicit sexual desire, (3) greed, or covetousness, (4) envy, (5) gluttony, which is usually understood to include drunkenness, (6) wrath, or anger, and (7) sloth.
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Today, the word sinful has taken on a less sinister meaning and is more often associated with a giving in to a secret pleasure. For example, we refer to chocolate as sinful decadence and we call a good back massage a sinful indulgence.
Likewise, these 7 sinful kissing techniques are meant to playfully appeal to his most basic desires and drive him back into the wild. So if you want a little adventure, pump up your pucker and share these enticing kisses with your special someone.
1. The Prideful Kiss
Pride is a feeling of pleasure from one's own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is associated, or from qualities or possession. It was frowned upon because it was taking away credit away from a higher being- the true source for one's good fortune. Today we try to promote self-esteem because it builds confidence.
When your sweetheart is full of pride, his self-confidence will grow, and his chin will jut out. To give your man a boost of self-confidence and pride, start by firmly kissing the bottom of his jaw line right where his face meets his neck. When he raises his chin, make a path of jawline kisses up to his ear and then give his earlobe a big wet kiss. You will both be feeling prideful at that moment.
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2. The Lustful Kiss
This one is probably self-explanatory. But for sake of consistency, here is a brief explanation of why lust was considered a deadly sin by the ancients. Lust was viewed as impure love that was not sustainable. But who says that you can't lust after the one you love.
Of course, you can and it all begins with a kiss. The best lustful kiss is still the good old French kiss- an open mouth kiss where your tongues do most of the lusting.
3. The Greedy Kiss
Greed is defined as excessively desirous of acquiring or possessing, especially wishing to possess more than what one needs or deserves. Greed is bad because you are hoarding something that someone needs to survive. But in today's world, there is nothing wrong with wanting your fellow to be excessively desirous of you and wanting you all to himself.
For the greedy kiss, you are going to give him a kiss that will keep him coming back for more. The greedy kiss is the French kiss with something extra. While you are French kissing, try to spell out the word "More" on his tongue to convey your own greedy desire for him.
4. The Envious Kiss
Envy was seen as sinful because it meant you didn't appreciate what you had and you might do something illegal to obtain it. Today, the sin of envy has been replaced by ambition, which is motivated by wanting a better life for you and your family. There is nothing wrong with ambition if you are honest and work hard to achieve what you desire.
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Contrary to what you might think, the envious kiss is not to make your guy envious seeing you kiss someone else. That would be truly sinful. The envious kiss is to make other men envious of your love and wishing they were getting that kind of attention from their wives or girlfriends.
For the envious kiss, pick a public place and grab him passionately, throwing your body fully into his. Pretend that you have not seen your honey for ages and plant a passionate kiss that will leave him and everyone breathless watching.
5. The Gluttonous Kiss
Gluttony is the excessive gorging of food and drink. Gluttony was seen as a sin and a weakness because if you become intoxicated you are much more likely to give in to other sins, such as lust, envy and anger. In our water-down version of gluttony, the intent is to make your lover hungry for you by giving him something to wet his appetite.
Start by selecting a favorite food or beverage to place in your mouth for this appetizing kiss. Ironically, a Hershey's kiss works well in executing this sinful kissing technique. Let the morsel of the chocolate melt in your mouth and then kiss your sweetheart for a doubly rich surprise.
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6. The Angry Kiss
Anger is the antithesis to love and was seen as a deadly sin because it could literally lead to deadly consequences. For our modified angry kiss, we are not suggesting anything so sinister or painful. Instead, the angry kiss is more akin to an aggressive-styled kiss to release pent up feelings similar to the way that anger is the release of pent up frustration.
For the angry kiss, sneak up on your partner like a wild animal, let out a few playful growls, and then attack him with a rapid round of fiery kisses.
7. The Lazy Kiss
Sloth is the sin of laziness or the reluctance to do work. It was considered a sin because lazy people who sit around all day simply couldn't be up to any good. In the modern world, everyone needs a least one lazy day to recuperate from their hectic lives.
For the lazy kiss, pick a Sunday or Saturday or whatever day the both of you are off. After a leisurely breakfast in bed, give him a kiss that lasts at least 5 minutes longer than normal. In other words, the trick is to make him feel that you have all the time in the world just for him.
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After a week of experiencing these sinfully sweet and sizzling kisses, your sweetheart may be begin calling you the 8th Wonder of the World.
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Thinking about sending a naughty picture to your honey's phone, just to have a little fun, maybe to get psyched for a special evening the two of you have planned? Before you hit send, you may want to think twice.
These days, it seems there is new technology out nearly every week. It literally changes the way we live.
Think back to a decade or two ago. Maybe at the time, you were a college student, had just gotten married or were getting your start at a new job. Back then, texting was just barely on the horizon. Now it seems we can't live without it. As we've gotten more used to texting, some of its dangers have surfaced, especially in the last couple of years.
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While sexting may seem innocent enough at the time -- maybe you're using it to flirt, prove your commitment to someone or just have fun -- what about those who use sexts to hurt, harass or humiliate? When sext messages get into the wrong hands, the results can be disastrous. Here's a closer look.
What it Is: More than Just a Clever Play on Words
The term "sexting" is a clever play on the words "sex" and "text messaging." It's basically when someone sends a provocative photo, which may include complete or partial nudity. The most popular way to send sexts are via text message, but messages also may be emailed and eventually saved on computers.
What may start out as a personal sext to one individual can eventually end up on other people's phones, emails and worse yet - Web sites. Unfortunately, once an image appears on a Web site, it's not necessarily easy or even possible to get it off.
The worst part is, once you've sent a text message with a sexually explicit photo, you have no control over it, but the recipient does. It's not like a sext comes with a confidentiality agreement.
So who are the groups most likely to engage in sexting? Teenagers and young people ranging from age 13 to 26.
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Professional Dangers of Sexting
Because the majority of "sexters" are young people, they have perhaps the longest amount of time for those images to haunt them. Sexting increases your visibility in the virtual world, and because it is so easy to access information on the Internet, there's a good chance a lapse in judgment could become a longtime or permanent obstacle.
Whether you're a young professional going out for that new job or have kids who want to get into their dream college or make the cut for that exclusive athletic organization, nothing can call his or her character into question like sexting. Because your photo can pop up anywhere, anytime, when you least expect it, there is a chance future and current employers can view it.
Perhaps no one understands that better than U.S. Rep. Anthony Weiner, who, after being caught for sending lewd photographs of himself to women online resigned in June 2011 amid a torrent of media coverage.
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Emotional Dangers of Sexting
Say you send a sexy message (accompanied by a photo, of course) to someone you've been in a committed relationship with, thinking it will never get out. He may not intend to send it to anyone, but what if his phone is lost or stolen?
Maybe he has a not-so-reputable old friend from high school who happens upon it while your man is in another room. What if you have a bitter breakup?
Photos you thought no one else would see could end up on other peoples' phones and potentially racy Web sites. It's embarrassing and humiliating, for one. A momentary lapse in judgment can taint years of a reputation you've worked to build.
The emotional dangers of sexting are even more pronounced with teens, who may have fragile self-esteem to begin with and may contemplate suicide. Unfortunately, teen girls have killed themselves in the wake of texting scandals on more than one occasion.
Legal Dangers of Sexting
Sexting also can have legal ramifications for adults and teens alike. In the case of infidelity, it can break up a marriage and, in especially contentious divorces, phone records dating as far back as a month can be pulled up, even when text messages have been deleted.
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For moms out there, the biggest legal issues right now involve adults soliciting and sexting teens, which in many cases, is considered criminal behavior.
Legislation has cropped up in more than 20 states that can actually result in child pornography charges for teens who send text messages, and sometimes, their recipients. That's because any nude or semi-nude photos of minors under the age of 18 constitute child pornography. It's a serious punishment for 13-and14-year olds that engage in sexting. Just how do parents protect their kids from this behavior and its consequences?
Legal ramifications of sexting are changing all the time and are murky, to say the least, when the age group meant to be protected by the laws is being punished by them, as well.
Think Before You Sext
In the best of cases, a sext is kept within the confines of a committed relationship. While the rationale behind sexting may be innocent enough, say if you both want to have a little fun and spice things up a bit, the consequences can often do more harm than good.
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After all, if your phone or your honey's got into the wrong hands, you have to ask yourself: Would you want this photo to end up on the Internet where your boss, parents, cousins and siblings could see?
Maybe you've already snapped the shot and are about to hit that send key. Before you do, you may want to consider some alternatives to the ever-notorious sext. Could you leave a sexy note on the counter or the car for his eyes only?
Another option is purchasing a camera with a docking station. Even if it feels outdated in this digital age, connecting your camera directly with a printer allows a distinct advantage -- it isn't saved and it can't be traced. Plus, it can be kept within the privacy of your own home -- now there's an idea!
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