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Hot Places to Have Sex

There was a time when you and your partner could've fried eggs on your bed sheets with all the heat and passion you generated in the bedroom. These days, you're lucky if you can pencil in a romantic rendezvous between your household chores, work obligations, and the warm glow of your TV.

If this about sums it up, don't feel bad. You are not alone in your relationship rut. Sexually speaking, it's not unusual for couples to peak, then plateau. But if you're looking to improve your sex life, the answer may be as simple as finding a few hot new places to have sex. It's amazing what a simple change of scenery can do to spice up your sex life.

Revving Up Your Sex Life After Having Kids

A lot of committed couples experience a slow-down-if not altogether halt-of their sex lives when a baby arrives. This is not uncommon, as babies (and kids) require a lot of work, and childcare can cause significant disruptions in sleeping patterns, not to mention impacting your alone time.

If your sex problems center on childrearing restrictions, such as feeling like you never have time for fun, creative sex, it's time to think about what you can do to shake things up a bit. Listed below are a few tips on recharging your sexual batteries:

  • Start making time for sex. Even if you're tired or the chores seem to be piling up, remember that you probably won't ever regret the time you devote to being intimate with your mate.
  • Get creative. Couples involved in long-term relationships can benefit from exploring different types of sexual play.
  • Feeling bored? Bring staid sex out of the bedroom.

Your sexual slow-down might simply be due to a lack of sexual creativity. To know how to get out of a rut in the bedroom, couples need to scrap their routines and head for new scenery.

If your sex life has slowed down in recent weeks, months, or even years, consider where you and your partner tend to spend the most alone time together. If 99.9% of your sexual acts occur in the bedroom, it's no wonder that your life sex has waned. Even the hottest sex will tend to cool if it always happens in the same locale.

You may be amazed to find how simply changing the venue, and moving your intimate acts out of the bedroom, can lead to a more playful, invigorated sexual experience. This doesn't mean you have to transform from an under-the-sheets-with-the-lights-out kind of a gal into a wild dominatrix who has sex in the back of a crowded movie theater. Simply initiating a hot, unexpected make-out session on the living room couch or while you're making dinner might be enough to get you and your partner excited about having sex.

Setting the Mood

To get things started, you'll want to set the mood by planning a fun date night or simply setting aside a few hours for some quality alone time for you and your partner. While you may think about planning an elaborate date night, with dinner, flowers and a show, keep in mind that these candle-lit romantic evenings can sometimes feel a bit contrived and may place undo pressure on you and your mate to have a "perfect" night of sex and romance. This can lead to performance anxiety and put the brakes on recharging your sex life.

Your sexcapades shouldn't always start or end up in the bedroom. Take your creative date to a new level by daring your lover to do it outside of the bedroom. If the couch is predictable, move it to the dining room, kitchen, study, or other spare room. Heck, even a chair instead of the bed is a great way to start thinking about sex in a different way.

Your date night gift could be the power of suggestion. Wanna try it on the rug? How about the kitchen counter? Maybe you can start with a sensual shower for two and end in the living room. The key is to think outside of the bedroom, and look around your home for hot places to have sex.

If sex outside of the bedroom isn't cutting it to really recharge those batteries, it may be time to think about more creative places to have sex. The idea is to mix it up, reengage each other intimately, and keep sexual appetites peaked. One caveat: you'll need to be careful and discreet in your out-of-the-house sexual encounters. Be aware that sex in public is typically illegal and depending on Federal, state and local laws, if you get caught in flagrante, you may face a warning, fines, or more serious charges.

With that disclaimer out of the way, it's time to start thinking about hot places to have sex that are outside of the home.

Hot Places to Have Sex Outside of the Home

An unconventional date night idea could be to suggest to your partner that you both vow to find "the best place to have sex." Start off in the house, and move on to other venues. Think of this as a sexual field trip and the reward is an intimate bonding experience that will leave you both hot and bothered. Remember that sex isn't limited to intercourse. You don't have to "go all the way" to get the most out of these intimate encounters.

Listed below are a few hot places to have sex:

  • The office - Who doesn't entertain the thought of a hot romp at the office? Just be sure it's somewhere without surveillance cameras or a roving security guard. Your best bet is a room with a door that locks (the copy room perhaps?), and tempting as it may be, forget the boss's office. If Hollywood has taught us anything, it's that that won't end well!
  • Hotel sex - Want to make this really hot? Arrange your hotel meet-up as if you were having an affair. Arrive separately, share a cocktail in the hotel bar and start the foreplay on the elevator ride back to the room.
  • In the woods - Plan a nature hike or camping trip, and come prepared with a soft blanket and a sense of adventure. Watch out for bugs, poison ivy, and dangerous animals!
  • In the backseat - Backseat make-out sessions aren't just for teens after prom. Park your car in a secluded locale, and let your mind-and hands-wander.

As hot as it sounds, joining the famed-and infamous-Mile High Club these days is a risky venture. Sky marshals and heightened security have rendered this virtually impossible for most couples. Unless you can charter a jet, you may have to settle for hot places to have sex that are on solid ground. That being said, don't overlook the appeal of getting intimate on a cruise or any type of boat. The sound and motion of the water can do a lot to get your senses piqued.

Likewise, you're never too old for a skinny dip. Find a private lake, pool or secluded pond, ditch your clothes and have fun together.

The key to having sex outside of the bedroom is to be creative and have a sense of adventure. And remember that sexual intimacy isn't limited to intercourse. Anything you do that brings you and your partner closer together while outside of the bedroom is sure to help generate heat between the sheets.

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The Best Places to Meet Your Next Date

On TV and in the movies, couples usually meet in some spontaneously romantic way. They run into one other by accident, lock eyes, and the scene cuts to the bedroom...or the altar.

Those of us who have been in the dating scene long enough know that such magical meetings are not the stuff of reality. Like every other achievement in our lives, meeting the right man usually takes dedication, hard work, and creativity.

Even for those of us who don't plan to take that long walk down the aisle anytime soon, aiming for a fun, fulfilling romance with a compatible partner is still important. Any woman will tell you that relationships in which the two parties share common values are more fun, more rewarding, and even more sexually satisfying.

So how and where do you meet your next great romance? Think common ground and personal connection.

In recent years, many women have grown tired of the usual spots and strategies for meeting guys. While many a fine relationship has begun at a club or bar, the consensus of late is that these establishments are better places to cut loose with your girlfriends than to meet the man of your dreams.

Whether you're interested in casual dating or looking to make a more lasting connection, there are plenty of options for you.

Women sometimes try to find a guy by attending adult education classes at the local community college or recreation center. Unfortunately, many of these classes are usually full of other women, with only a few men to be found. This is mainly because most women are interested in classes geared to female tastes.

Home Improvement Class

There are some exceptions, of course, but in general if a man is at a wine-tasting or pottery class, he's there to impress his significant other. Luckily, there are some classes men show up for in droves when nobody is forcing them to: DIY home improvement classes.

Most of the larger home improvement stores offer these learning opportunities to the public. By attending a home improvement class, you can learn how to take home repair into your own hands and maybe even meet the perfect assistant.

Get Active

Joining a sports team or a group that enjoys athletic activities is a great way to meet new people, including a possible love connection. Whether you're into bowling, hiking, bicycling, skating, or even mountain climbing, there are usually tons of groups (even in cities) that exist to bring people together through fun and healthy activities.

Joining a group that engages in physical activities together is a great way to stay fit, have fun doing something you enjoy, and meet people who share your goals and interests. Plus, all that sweaty activity is a great way to get your endorphins going!

Sports Bars

While the usual bar/club scene is difficult for making love connections, the sports bar scene is a different story. Sports bars offer a more down-to-earth, casual atmosphere and the guy-to-girl ratio is definitely in your favor. It's also a great option if you're more into watching sports than playing them.

At a sports bar you're on his turf which may help a shy or quiet guy to be comfortable enough to open up. Plus, all the male energy may be an exciting, energizing force for you. Kick back, order a cold beer and make sure to pay at least some attention to the game.

If you're looking for compatibility and a real connection, try looking for a date at locations where you're sure to meet someone with common interests.


Volunteering gives people a sense of satisfaction as well as a feeling of openness toward others. Combine this with the strong passion many volunteers have for their cause of choice and you'll have an excellent environment for romance to blossom.

Whatever the volunteer work entails, there is usually a need for people to co-operate and work closely together either physically or mentally. In that setting, you can gain a lot of knowledge about those you work with, especially any guys you may have on your radar. Is he compassionate? Does he work well with others? If he earns high grades on the "good guy" report card, you may want to make your move.

Spiritual Connections

Adults of all ages are renewing their interest in spirituality, whether by returning to the faith of their childhood, or by venturing out on their own chosen path to the divine. This increased focus on the spiritual element has led to more people seeking romantic connections in the places where their grandparents may have met: houses of worship.

This choice is best for those who are looking for a relationship with long-term possibilities. If the idea of flirting during evening prayers creeps you out, don't worry. Many houses of worship offer thriving singles groups and mixers to provide a more appropriate setting for the faithful to find love.

Events for Singles

Speed dating events and other singles-focused activities are a great choice for a woman who enjoys a more structured atmosphere for meeting a partner. When the question of whether someone is looking is already answered, there's room for direct conversations to determine compatibility. While the atmosphere is light-hearted, the attendees are definitely oriented toward meeting someone special.

When searching for your perfect match, don't discount traditional ways of meeting a guy. It's perfectly fine to meet someone through friends and family. Fix-ups (think of them as referrals) from people you love and trust can actually work. Or try the new classic: the Internet. Just remember to use reputable sites and follow basic online safety rules.

You can land a date for Saturday night, or even for many Saturdays after that. It may take some time, or it might be that eye-sparkling fairytale moment, after all. You never know until you try.

Sometimes you have to be your own fairy godmother, so get out there and work your magic.

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Best Aphrodisiacs to Spice Up Your Sex Life

If you're planning a romantic evening with your guy and you're wondering what you should serve, perhaps you should consider including a few passion-boosting ingredients on the menu. Not a fan of shellfish? Oysters aren't the only food reputed for their aphrodisiac qualities.

You don't need to go halfway around the world or break the law-for instance, by experimenting with ingesting tiger bones-to find the best aphrodisiacs to give your sex life a jolt. You can get a cart-full of carnality right at your local supermarket. Chances are some of the items you have in your home right now have been thought of as aphrodisiacs at some point in history.

The idea that certain foods and herbs have the ability to ignite or enhance sexual arousal has appeared in just about every culture. It's also an idea with a long history. Aphrodisiacs show up in the writings of ancient peoples from Greece to Rome to Babylon.

In modern times, we may dismiss aphrodisiacs as superstition or snake oil, but the connection between sex and certain foods persists. There may even be some science to aphrodisiacs after all. These days, Western medicine is discovering the validity of many ancient health theories.

This relatively recent focus on alternative and holistic medicine has allowed some alleged aphrodisiacs to be studied under the microscope of modern science, sometimes with surprising results.

While some of the traditional aphrodisiacs actually do contain vitamins, minerals, or naturally-occurring chemicals that can benefit the reproductive system, there's still little proof that they can create sexual desire in any given situation. Still, it's exciting to know that some everyday foods can indeed have at least some effect on your sexual functioning.

Researching aphrodisiacs can be a fun and informative diversion that just may end up helping your love life after all.

At first glance, the dishes that have been considered aphrodisiacs may seem to have been chosen based on their shape and texture. Foods like oysters and asparagus were thought to resemble and therefore symbolize the female and male genitalia, respectively.

Bananas fall into this category because of their phallic shape, and there are some studies that suggest bananas really can get a man's motor running thanks to an enzyme called bromelain. The jury's still out on whether bananas really work, but at around 49 cents a pound, it sure can't hurt to give them a try.

Now we'll go from the "why not?" cheap thrill to some aphrodisiacs you'll want to use only on your hottest seduction target. They may cost a bit more, but there's research to support their effectiveness.

Caviar, while a bank-breaker and an acquired taste, does contain high amounts of zinc which stimulates the production of testosterone. Although it's usually thought of as a male hormone, testosterone exists in females as well and contributes to the sexual functioning of both sexes.

Fine dark chocolate is pretty much the best-known aphrodisiac worldwide. It contains a naturally occurring stimulant as well as properties that produce feelings of satisfaction.

And don't forget the champagne! Like other alcoholic beverages, champagne relaxes you and lowers inhibitions. It's said that champagne affects women more strongly than it does men, creating a pleasant feeling of warmth and a sexy high. Don't overdo it though. While alcohol in moderation can help ease you into an evening of love, drunkenness is a mood killer that can interfere with sexual performance and pleasure.

If nothing else, the knowledge that you spent the time and money to arrange a meal of these delectable treats might be enough to turn your lover on.

Most spices that gained fame as love potions are those with strong flavor. Ancient cultures made a correlation between the warm sensations and flushed faces caused by a spicy dish and the similar experiences of sexual excitement. Spices said to have aphrodisiac qualities include:

  • Horseradish
  • Cloves
  • Ginger
  • Nutmeg
  • Thyme
  • Oregano

While it's unclear whether the small amount of spice used in one meal can produce any real aphrodisiac effect, many spices do contain beneficial natural components and using them regularly as part of a nutritious diet can improve your overall health, including your sex life.

There are plenty of aromatherapy theories regarding sexual desire as well. The scents of vanilla, orange, cinnamon, and chocolate are high on the list of olfactory aphrodisiacs. Many commercial perfumes and colognes feature these scents. Musk, a strongly scented animal oil, is also a traditional aphrodisiac put to use in bottled perfumes.

Many of our most desire-producing scents are those that have their basis in childhood or in our early romantic experiences. A woman can be affected by a whiff of her first love's cologne decades after the relationship ends.

Of course, the strongest aphrodisiac scent is one we can't even consciously detect. Pheromones are chemicals produced by the human body that play a role in attraction and mate selection. We smell, or rather sense, these chemicals with a special part of our olfactory system. This is why the natural body scent of someone we love can be so intoxicating.

One place that all aphrodisiacs can work is in the mind of the user. It's the old placebo effect, best summed up as "if you believe it will work-it will." There's nothing wrong with taking advantage of this great truth, particularly when it comes to aphrodisiacs. The most sensitive sex organ is the mind. If oysters, chocolate, or a spicy curry is served on a night of anticipated romance, it can very well help a couple to associate those flavors with arousal.

In a similar way, things like power, success, and self-confidence can be amazing aphrodisiacs that work from within. Getting a promotion, a lovely compliment, or other well-deserved accolades can make you feel like a sex goddess. No love potion required.

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